Question

Dear SJ,

Losing a best friend is never easy．

Your problem is not just that you miss your best friend; it is that you feel empty and lost without her friendship．

It takes time to get over a lost, and during that time, your mind is getting used to a new way of being．This is usually a good thing, even if it feels like a bad thing．

Now that you are on your own, you are being forced to learn to be by yourself and to rely upon your own inner voice for guidance． I am sure that this feels strange for you, but if you can hang on for a bit longer, it may work to your advantage．

Best friends are cool, but it is important to know the difference between missing someone and being too dependent upon them．

At your age, girls do tend to stick together and having a good boyfriend may not yet be the better choice． Your friend is leaving you, her best friend, for a boyfriend． Boyfriends are completely different from best friends． The difference is that boyfriends come and go, while girl friends often stay in your life throughout high school, and even afterwards． It is a completely different sort of relationship．

I suggest that you take advantage of this period in your life to expand your horizons． Enjoy the freedom of having no best friend for a while, and hang with the group． By the time your former best friend breaks up with her boyfriend, you will be in a completely different place, a far better place．

And, by the way, next time you feel empty and lost, try to write about it in a diary． In several months, you will look back and read it with curiosity about yourself． “Who was I then, and what could I have been thinking?”

1．Judging from the letter, SJ’s problem was that she didn’t know ______．

A．whether to give up her best friend                B．what to do without her best friend

C．whom to choose between two friends           D．how to stop missing her former friend

2．The underlined part “a new way of being” （in Paragraph 3） refers to the situation in which SJ has to ________．

A．find a new friendship                                  B．live without her boyfriend

C．learn to give up                                        D．learn to be independent

3．The writer believes by the time SJ’s former friend loses her boyfriend, SJ will ______．

A．take revenge（報復） on her former friend 

B．comfort her former friend

C．feel more independent and confident

D．continue friendship with her former friend

4．What does the last paragraph seem to suggest?

A．Unhappy experiences are easy to forget．

B．Keeping a diary helps correct oneself．

C．SJ will get over her problem soon．

D．One shouldn’t forget the past experiences．

Answer 1

BDCA